SINGLE MEN: No More Mr. Nice Guy! (Be a D*CK & Get The Girl?)
After 12 years of marriage, I found myself back in the dating world.
I was out of the game so long I didn’t know what to say or do to succeed with women… and it showed.
I was rejected, ignored, and humiliated repeatedly.
I tried to play it off like it didn’t bother me.
But the truth is… Rejection hurts.
Since I was a “Nice Guy” I concluded that I was failing with women because I was too nice.
So I started learning “Bad Boy” pickup artist techniques.
As a result, my success with women improved.
That was 10 years ago.
I’m going to share three “Bad Boy” pickup techniques, along with the corresponding “Nice Guy” technique I use now so you can compare the two and decide for yourself which is best…
Bad Boy vs Nice Guy… Let’s go…
Scenario #1: Using a “wing” to get the girl
Bad Boy:
I would use a wingman in 2 ways:
1) To start a conversation with my target.
He would tell her about my past accomplishments so when I approach she would be more receptive to my advances.
He would share stories I’m too modest to talk about… like how I saved a bunch of orphans from a burning building.
I’m just kidding. The stories weren’t that outrageous… but close.
2) To distract a guy through conversation so I could step to his girlfriend.
I know… I was a douchebag. But I was also a Bad Boy so I didn’t give a sh*t.
Nice Guy:
Now, all my “wingmen” are female.
Because of my Prospecting Plan, I meet new women regularly.
If there is a romantic connection I’ll ask her out.
If not, I’ll put her in the Friend Zone.
When we hang out, my female friends help me attract women.
They don’t need to do anything.
Their presence alone is enough to attract other women.
Melissa Burkley of Oklahoma State University in Stillwater conducted a study with 184 heterosexual students at the university.
The most striking result was that 90% of single women said they preferred attached men over those who were single.*
You don’t have to be in a relationship to take advantage of this dynamic.
Being with a girl (or a bunch of girls) is just as effective.
Cast your vote! Who wins for Scenario #1?
If you prefer the Bad Boy approach to using a wing, enter (-1) on your scorecard.
If you think the Nice Guy approach is better enter (+1).
Scenario #2: Picking up highly attractive women
Bad Boy:
I thought it was ok to use negs.
A “neg” is an expression of disinterest used to break the frame of being the average guy.
They are usually reserved for highly attractive women who constantly receive unwanted attention from men.
Negs are used to demonstrate you are not “putting her on a pedestal” just because she’s an attractive woman.
Examples:
– Nice nails, are they real?
– Those are great boots! You’re the third girl I’ve seen wearing them tonight.
– I wish you were brunette. I’m taking a break from blondes for a while.
The average guy would be too afraid of offending her to say something like this.
Guys usually make the mistake of delivering negs as zingers, but a neg doesn’t work if it feels like an insult.
Nice Guy:
Now, I use sincere Compliment-Questions (CQ’s).
The intent of a CQ is NOT to impress her.
The key is to offer CQ’s without needing or wanting anything in return.
Examples:
– That is an amazing outfit. Are you in fashion?
– You have the most beautiful energy. Do you practice yoga or meditation?
– Cute work outfit… Or is that just how you dress when you come to Walmart?
As a Nice Guy, it feels better to lift someone up with a CQ than it does to put someone down with a neg… No matter how attractive they are.
Time to vote! What’s it gonna be? If you prefer the Bad Boy approach to picking up highly attractive women enter (-1) on your scorecard. If not, enter (+1) for the Nice Guy approach.
Scenario #3: Starting interesting conversations
Bad Boy:
I used fake stories to start interesting conversations.
Example:
Do you think spells work?
The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week.
He wasn’t interested in her sexually, because she wasn’t really his type.
Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped around a scroll and some feathers under his couch.
He took it to a magic store and they said it was an attraction spell.
And now, the strange thing is, he can’t stop thinking about her.
Do you think it’s the spell or just psychological?
Nice Guy:
In the words of Siddhartha Gautama (The Buddha):
“3 things shall not remain hidden… The sun, the moon, and the truth.”
Now, I use a TK Filter.
Before speaking to a woman (or anyone) I ask myself if what I’m about to say passes the TK Test:
(1) Is it True?
(2) Is it Kind?
If what I’m about to say DOES NOT pass this 2-question filter, I keep it to myself.
Here’s an example of a conversation I use now that passes the TK Test:
– I just read a book about relationships and I would love to get a female perspective…
Tell her about a book you actually read, share your thoughts and feelings, then ask her opinion.
Case your last vote… Which approach is best for starting interesting conversations? Enter (-1) for the Bad Boy or (+1) for the Nice Guy.
Bad Boy vs Nice Guy… Who’s the winner?
Tally up your votes!
If the total is below zero you prefer the Bad Boy approach to picking up women.
If the total is above zero you prefer the Nice Guy approach.
Based on field testing, Nice Guy strategies are at least 10 times more effective than those of the Bad Boy.
As it turns out, nice guys DON’T finish last.
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